Why has nobody told me this before?

Skills to get through life by therapist Dr. Julie Smith.


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Self-Sabotage Is Protection

When you procrastinate, avoid, or lash out — part of you is trying to protect you.

Ask this:

  • “What fear might be underneath this?”
  • “What am I protecting myself from?”
  • “What do I need to feel safer to move forward?”

This approach builds insight without shame.
Understanding the “why” helps change the “what.”


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