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Actionable therapeutic tools from Jonah Hill’s therapist. (also a documentary on Netflix)


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The Shadow

What it is

The Shadow is the version of yourself that you try to hide. It may be based on a younger, rejected version of you — someone who felt unworthy, unattractive, or unlovable. Most people carry shame about this version of themselves.

Why it matters

Ignoring the Shadow creates internal conflict and self-sabotage. Embracing it brings wholeness and self-respect. You don’t have to like your Shadow — but you must build a relationship with it.

What to do

  • Visualize your Shadow clearly.
  • Talk to it with respect: “I see you. I won’t leave you.”
  • Integrate it into your present self.

“If you can’t love your Shadow, you can’t love yourself.”


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